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I’m not a doctor or a medical expert. I’m just a guy with a degree not related to medicine. What I’m about to share shouldn’t be taken as substitute for a qualified medical expertise. Everything I write about is simply my experience and views on the subject.
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When it comes to a woman’s body or the workings of her brain, most men are confused. Women are complex creatures and because of this complexity most men despite trying hard, fail to meet the needs of their lady.
According To Monica Geller From F.R.I.E.N.D.S There Are 7 Basic Erogenous Zones in a Women a Man Needs To Pay Attention To During Foreplay which includes:
- Inner Thigh
She mentioned this in a classic episode of Friends to Chandler. Each zone had corresponding numbers, and she maps out different combinations a ( 1-2-3 ) that could lead to pure pleasure.
I decided I will put her theory to the test. My relationship with my partner has been on a decline. We have both been very busy with work and it has affected our sex life.
We have been having sex just twice in a month and it’s always in the missionary position. I’m going to put the spark back into our relationship. But first I need to learn more about the Erogenous Zones and how to treat them with the respect and attention they deserve.
Simply refers to the parts of the human body that experiences heightened sensitivity. The stimulation of these parts of the human body may generate a sexual response, such as relaxation, sexual fantasies, sexual arousal, and orgasm.
These are areas of the body that are highly sensitive and when touched usually trigger a physical reaction that can help with foreplay.
We come in contact with these areas of the body during the physical foreplay, especially kissing, massage, stroking your partner with a feather or ice cube. It’s best that you pay attention to her reactions so you can identify her erogenous zones.
These zones are found all over the body in both males and females, and they are far more complex and intricate than just the genitals. Now let’s explore what counts as foreplay, why it’s important, and also some benefits of foreplay.
What is Foreplay?
Foreplay is the foundation of good sex and yet, there are many men who overlook it. Because intercourse is their sole focus, when with a lady. This line of thinking causes men to ejaculate quicker than they would have liked.
If only they had a different perspective on sex. Intercourse is usually secondary for your lady. And if you’re skipping foreplay, i can pretty much guarantee that you are missing out.
- Foreplay helps to set the stage for what is to come
- Foreplay is everything leading up to actual intercourse
- Foreplay done right doesn’t necessarily require intercourse
- Foreplay can be as subtle as a sexual hint like a note hidden in her handbag or as obvious as describing what you want to do to your partner on the phone
- Foreplay can start for hours or even days before intercourse takes place
Why is Foreplay Important?
Foreplay is awesome, and both men and women love it. A lot of women enjoy having sex, but a lot of them have never been with a man who has brought them to orgasm. To bring a woman to orgasm, you need to do some extracurricular work. This is where foreplay comes in.
It’s advised that before any strenuous physical activity, it’s important to be properly warmed up. So why not do the same when you are with your partner. Why don’t you extend the pre-intercourse fun for as long as you both can?
5 Benefits Of Foreplay:
- Foreplay makes the experience of intercourse with your partner far better. She’ll be more into it because she’s getting what she yearns for and deserves. She’s also better prepared both mentally and physically.
- Foreplay allows you to become closer to your partner.
- Foreplay helps to build emotional intimacy and trust, which promotes the health of the overall relationship. Which is more important than the immediate gratification you will both enjoy for only a few minutes.
- Foreplay also helps the clitoris fulfill its important role. The clitoris has the same characteristics as the penis. Meaning blood flows into the clitoris, the same way as the penis. And in order for a woman to have an orgasm, there must be lubrication in the vagina. Also, the clitoris must get erect. Stimulation is the key to achieving such pleasure.
- Foreplay adds excitement and variety to your relationship.
A woman needs emotional assurance that the man she’s about to have sex with really , really likes her and wants to be with her. The amount of time and attention given during foreplay can communicate that message to her and you will be handsomely rewarded.
For Ladies: If you feel pain during intercourse. Please go to the hospital for a medical evaluation.
For Guys: If you find it difficult to maintain an erection it shouldn’t be a reason to be panic. Read about Erectile Dysfunction and how my relationship was saved.
There are different types of foreplay we have:
- Physical Foreplay
- Mental Foreplay
- Emotional Foreplay
Foreplay can help a woman to become properly lubricated. Proper lubrication is very important because sex could be painful without it. Getting a woman wet isn’t the same as you getting turned on.
Think of your penis like a light switch and her vagina as a smoothie blender – please stay with me for this comparison. Like a light switch, a simple flick and the light comes on. When making your smoothie, you need to drop your fruits into the jar with other ingredients to create a delicious smoothie.
You push a button to start the blender, and the motor begins to turn the blades. This circular pattern continues, whipping air into the contents, which helps mix the ingredients more quickly until you stop the smoothie blender and get the finished product.
Diving right into sex can be very boring. Unless it’s a quickie where you both are running low on time but need to have sex now.
Mental foreplay can involve describing what you will like to do to your partner in graphic detail or teasing her by acting like you’re about to do something but pulling back at the last moment.
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Much like the smoothie blender comparison from above, it’s all about the build-up to the action, and emotional or mental foreplay is one of the best ways to do just that.
Now let’s take a closer look at the 7 Basic Erogenous Zones from Monica Geller list
The ears have a sensitive skin on the outside and hundreds of sensory receptors on the inside.The ears can be stimulated through both sound and touch.
Please take advantage of those sensory receptors by gently brushing a finger along the side, and breathing into her ears. It is a massive turn-on that should not be overlooked.
There’s a reason why having someone whisper in your ear gives you goosebumps
Also try lightly kissing, licking, sucking or nibbling your partner’s earlobes. That should definitely get her a little excited.
2. Lips (Mouth And Lips):
Kissing is an art, and you should be using every inch of your partners lips and mouth as your canvas. Trace the shape of your partners lips with your tongue before moving in for a slow wet kiss. Or gently suck or nibble on your partner’s bottom lip. You can also run your fingers over your partners mouth in between kisses.
Bonus Tip: Don’t stop kissing once you’re making sweet love. Always keep close contact by locking lips at regular intervals, no matter what position you are in. Huge reward awaits you.
The back of the neck is usually unexplored by many men, but it is a really ticklish spot . The nape of her neck is another hot zone. This is the right place to plant those gentle tender kisses. Don’t hesitate to go ballistic on the neck. Kiss her and then proceed to gently bite her neck gently.
Brushing your hand over her neck, or tracing the sides and the front with your finger tip or just breathing on her neck can be a major turn-on. So go ahead and don’t miss a single spot on her body.
4. Breasts and Nipples:
Most men go crazy for them, but the trick is to know how to build up the excitement. Nipple stimulation lights up the same area in the brain as the genitals. The nipples are connected to nerves that make touching them extra pleasurable, so don’t pounce on them, or squeeze them too hard. Be gentle, the way she responds to your moves will tell you what she likes and doesn’t like.
You can start with a light touch by tracing your finger tips around the areola before moving onto the nipple and sucking, licking, and even flicking them with your finger tips gently. You can also use ice cube on them.
Bonus Tip: If your partner likes it rough you can graze her nipples with your teeth.
Ask her consent before you go digging down there. It’s not shocking that many women and guys automatically associate it with full-on penetration.
Having your partner caress the outside skin or even doing some light fingering is a very great way to take advantage of the numerous sensitive nerve ends inside your anus. If she likes it, she’ll respond with some lip biting and muffled moans. So, look out for signals and you will be fine.
6. Inner Thighs:
It is positioned very close to the clitoris. So you can understand why touching the area right near her most sensitive spot makes the inner thighs an ideal place to tease your partner and trust me, it is teasing on a major level. You can use your fingers to trace or rub the inner and outer thighs firmly in circular stroking motions running your fingers from the groin along the inside of the thigh to the knee. Continue doing this and she will be left wanting for more like Oliver Twist. Use your imagination here and you will be handsomely rewarded.
Bonus Tips : You can also plant kisses on her inner and outer thighs or use a feather to stroke her inner and outer thighs.
7. Vagina and Clitoris:
Women don’t like men who just attack it. You need to take your time to tease it and play with it. Be creative but keep it very gentle. It’s the most erogenous area, but it’s a little fragile as well. So treat it as the flower that it is. The clitoris communicates with the brain via the pudendal nerve, which is the same pathway that carries information to the brain from the penis. This small pleasure bud is covered by a hood and contains over 8,000 nerve endings more than twice the amount found on the head of the penis.
Gently take it between your index and middle finger and slide it slowly in an up-and-down motion using light pressure. Experiment with different direction and tempo to find what feels best.
Bonus Tip: For some good tongue action it’s advised that you start slow and increase your speed and pressure. As long as you’re going about it the right way you will get your rewarded.
As Monica Geller rightly advised you should mix them up and keep her on the edge:
Go for a 1,21,2,3,3,5,4,3,2,2, a 2,4,6,2,4,6,4,2,2,4,7,5,7,6,7,7,7,7,7……and finish.
There isn’t actually a set number of erogenous zones for women. Erogenous Zones change from person to person. We only touched on the areas Monica Geller listed. You will only know what you or your partner like by testing things out.
Experimenting with different erogenous zones can make sex with your partner more pleasurable and exciting. You will never know if you or your partner like them until you try it out
Now that I’m armed with this valuable information I’m going to use it to spice up my relationship with my partner. I will post an update in my next article on how things turned out.
Our bodies are filled with sexually charged areas just waiting to be explored. Take the time to learn which spots do it for you and your partner, then engage in a little show-and-tell to make the most of them.
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- Do you think that foreplay is healthy and important in your relationship/marriage?
- How do you feel about foreplay?
- Is it overrated?
- Mention one thing you wish you’d known about foreplay sooner?
- How many new erogenous zones did you discover in your partner?
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